A son is a son till he gets himself a wife but a daughter is a daughter all her life!!! but r we really happy and content to have a daughter today??? a girl still can't go out on a trip with her girl-friends, shop till 10 in night, go for a walk alone after 8 or work late night with her parents sleeping peacefully at night, her father not calling her and her mother not worrying for her. May be then wen she is married and has a husband whose permission she will have to seek obviously. Well this is obvious that i m talking abt india. name one father who is resting at home peacefully when his daughter is out and not married and "young". sometimes being young sees as a punishment.Be it a riche's daughter or poor's daughter, we are born with the liability of being home at "8". and if a father does not worry himself or be tense then the people around him will make him tense, the news, elders, neighbors all r ready to make the father worry. a boy can party, be out till watever time he wants, drink wat he wants, "wear" what he wants, pee wherever he wants, go for trips, do late night work in short do watever he wants and a girl can only do what people, society wants be it clothes, job, career, her looks, her complexion, her hair and sometimes even her love. so can anyone answer "r we still happy to have a daughter'???
Monday, June 6, 2011
happy to have a daughter...i doubt.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
euthanasia - a death with dignity
well this is something which feel strongly about and want to write and be read. i know its coming after a longtime but this is important.. i wrote it for my portfolio that i was suppose to submit in my clg nd now i m making it visible to everyone i hope it makes some difference
She cannot move, she cannot sit, she cannot speak, she cannot hear, she cannot see, She is BRAIN DEAD.
She suffers from atrophying bones, the joints at her fingers, her wrists, knees, ankles are bent inwards & to try straightening them causes her pain. She suffers emotional trauma, so much so that it results in inappropriate laughter & bouts of screaming. Her memory & most of her other mental faculties are gone. She continues to live in this neither-alive-nor-dead existence for the past 36 years, reacting to stimuli yet unable to otherwise communicate. Forced to be fed Aruna Shaunbag lives. But can this be called “Life”? Can one person live without being able to move, see, hear, feel or follow the other necessary conditions of living? Article 21 of Indian constitution states what living is and Aruna shaunbag doesn’t even fulfill those criteria. But still we cannot grant her a death with dignity. No doctor can bring her life back to normal and nor can we free her of her misery, we cannot or rather would not grant her EUTHANASIA.
Life is very unpredictable. Aruna would never have thought that on her wedding day she would be tied up in dog chains, raped and tortured brutally by a ward boy, about whom she was going to complain as she had caught him cheating. Today wherever and in whatever state she lives, I bet we can’t even stay there for a minute. Try to imagine…getting inside a box where you can fit in half, open it from above and just lie down there. Try lying down for minimum 10 minutes. Try moving, eating, sleeping or even speaking. You’ll experience 36 years of Aruna’s life, with the benefit of being able to watch, speak, shout for help, feel and dream or at least breathe properly. I bet those 10 minutes will seem like a punishment but imagine if people or society around us does not allow you to get out of that box, it does not allow you your freedom and says this is illegal, punishable and offensive. How would you feel??? Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside while we live.
What is euthanasia exactly?? The precise definition of euthanasia is "a deliberate intervention undertaken with the express intention of ending a life, to relieve intractable suffering." The word euthanasia is derived from the Greek word “euthanatos” meaning “well death” and originally referred to intentional mercy killing. In the modern context euthanasia is limited to the killing of patients by doctors at the request of the patient in order to free him of excruciating pain or from terminal illness. But our Indian law does not allow euthanasia. There are many “subs” to it but still we will not allow one to get him/her free of their suffering.
But I say why not, why can’t we…by allowing passive euthanasia or rejecting pleas till when can we wait for that miracle to happen in this 60yr olds life and let her live or I would rather say suffer in this “persistent vegetative state”. Who is to be blamed??? Who can answer these question and when???
Our society, It is scared, our law is scared, scared of being misused, scared of being held wrongfully. They say anyone with slightest conditions of depression will plea for euthanasia if it is made legal. But then I say what is our law for, our courts, judges for, they are sitting there to see the situation and make decisions but the reality remains that our constitution, our law, our society is scared. I say shame on us, shame on our critiques, government, politics and social activists who can’t make correct decisions and grant people a peaceful life, if not more!!!
She cannot move, she cannot sit, she cannot speak, she cannot hear, she cannot see, She is BRAIN DEAD.
She suffers from atrophying bones, the joints at her fingers, her wrists, knees, ankles are bent inwards & to try straightening them causes her pain. She suffers emotional trauma, so much so that it results in inappropriate laughter & bouts of screaming. Her memory & most of her other mental faculties are gone. She continues to live in this neither-alive-nor-dead existence for the past 36 years, reacting to stimuli yet unable to otherwise communicate. Forced to be fed Aruna Shaunbag lives. But can this be called “Life”? Can one person live without being able to move, see, hear, feel or follow the other necessary conditions of living? Article 21 of Indian constitution states what living is and Aruna shaunbag doesn’t even fulfill those criteria. But still we cannot grant her a death with dignity. No doctor can bring her life back to normal and nor can we free her of her misery, we cannot or rather would not grant her EUTHANASIA.
Life is very unpredictable. Aruna would never have thought that on her wedding day she would be tied up in dog chains, raped and tortured brutally by a ward boy, about whom she was going to complain as she had caught him cheating. Today wherever and in whatever state she lives, I bet we can’t even stay there for a minute. Try to imagine…getting inside a box where you can fit in half, open it from above and just lie down there. Try lying down for minimum 10 minutes. Try moving, eating, sleeping or even speaking. You’ll experience 36 years of Aruna’s life, with the benefit of being able to watch, speak, shout for help, feel and dream or at least breathe properly. I bet those 10 minutes will seem like a punishment but imagine if people or society around us does not allow you to get out of that box, it does not allow you your freedom and says this is illegal, punishable and offensive. How would you feel??? Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside while we live.
What is euthanasia exactly?? The precise definition of euthanasia is "a deliberate intervention undertaken with the express intention of ending a life, to relieve intractable suffering." The word euthanasia is derived from the Greek word “euthanatos” meaning “well death” and originally referred to intentional mercy killing. In the modern context euthanasia is limited to the killing of patients by doctors at the request of the patient in order to free him of excruciating pain or from terminal illness. But our Indian law does not allow euthanasia. There are many “subs” to it but still we will not allow one to get him/her free of their suffering.
But I say why not, why can’t we…by allowing passive euthanasia or rejecting pleas till when can we wait for that miracle to happen in this 60yr olds life and let her live or I would rather say suffer in this “persistent vegetative state”. Who is to be blamed??? Who can answer these question and when???
Our society, It is scared, our law is scared, scared of being misused, scared of being held wrongfully. They say anyone with slightest conditions of depression will plea for euthanasia if it is made legal. But then I say what is our law for, our courts, judges for, they are sitting there to see the situation and make decisions but the reality remains that our constitution, our law, our society is scared. I say shame on us, shame on our critiques, government, politics and social activists who can’t make correct decisions and grant people a peaceful life, if not more!!!
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Hell it has been long and I won’t say dat I was busy it was jus dat I was lazy and had no topic to speak on…but today I m gonna speak on ADAGIO
It all started wid a dream and has reached this far I still can’t believe that its happening…I mean I always heard follow ur dreams, live to fulfill them, never stop dreaming blah blah blah but I use to think that dreams were always to help u during a boring lecture or may help u sleep good…but it has happened 1st time in my life and this gives me an inspiration to dream more, dream big…I noe I m sounding like a philosopher but yeah they r right after all….its only about following ur dream…
I remember the day we barged into the principal’s room and told her that v want to start a society and her words were”do u even noe wat choreo is” and today I would ask her “maam do u even noe wat a point is”….well if she wouldn’t have been there then nothing would have happened but for me things started falling in place when suheena auditioned...I still respect her for that coz frankly we guys knew nothing and were sitting as dude’s of some huge choreography world and auditioned all and off course how can I forgot how did v find our chape I mean varsha and these 2 were the only two who continued till the end out all seven selected, out of 8 ppl who came to audition…. And the auditions kept happening, the last and final audition was the real beginning when deepali, divya B&P joined.sahej and roshini were already a part of it and nomi r only survivor of the 2nd round of audition out of 13…and pritha joining after our desperate need of few more team members…but the real journey started from 1st oct when Diparshri & Avantika our saviors, gods and everything I would say….came in and took over and have brought us from there to here where we stand today. The whole DU now knows that Kamala Nehru has a choreo team and a very healthy, strong choreo team…the practices, 104◦F fevers. From practicing baby deadfalls (so dat if no1 is available then wat would we do) to each and everything, changing kirwani and requem again & again and then expressions workshop (one in which we all were suppose to shout as loud as possible) from N number of clean-ups, fights, excuses not to come to practice, ppl leaving the team 2 days before the competition, attendance issues…trying different kinds of make-ups and costume problems…Pheww…we have finally made it. 20th nov r 1st win and I still wonder how did v win I mean we tied wid hansraj and venky was 2nd hahahahaha I guess divyaP’s jacket was the lucky charm……and as it happens in typical hindi movies our victory streak started (and now I also agree with these hindi movies)hansraj-III, Srcc – 1st , JMC- 2nd and that’s not all our very 1st win for which we were recognized a little later and still jus won certificates IIPM…
But every story has a ugly part to it everything can’t be beautiful…one thing I believe was, that we were a very strong team but we only lacked team spirit for some it was becoming a burden and I agree things were not so good backstage in our lives but one should have the courage to fight or completely withdraw not make others suffer coz of it….we didn’t have feeling for each other, the bond was not created, it was becoming heavy. As every coin has two sides we also saw one of the darkest days of adagio and I m not gonna talk abt it coz I still remember sitting all alone at metro station crying all alone coz I had forgot to make the cd, no Nikhil no richa and many others, and we didn’t even noe wat was going to happen the worst( and I’ve said a lot abt it)but we also had the perfect ending we finally won the 1st prize without sharing it with anyone and also got the cash prize then and there hehehehe….
And now we have to start it all again without suheena, deepali, sahej & divya…but the best part Avantika & diparshri would be with us. (I hope so) and I know this time it will reach new heights
I remember the day we barged into the principal’s room and told her that v want to start a society and her words were”do u even noe wat choreo is” and today I would ask her “maam do u even noe wat a point is”….well if she wouldn’t have been there then nothing would have happened but for me things started falling in place when suheena auditioned...I still respect her for that coz frankly we guys knew nothing and were sitting as dude’s of some huge choreography world and auditioned all and off course how can I forgot how did v find our chape I mean varsha and these 2 were the only two who continued till the end out all seven selected, out of 8 ppl who came to audition…. And the auditions kept happening, the last and final audition was the real beginning when deepali, divya B&P joined.sahej and roshini were already a part of it and nomi r only survivor of the 2nd round of audition out of 13…and pritha joining after our desperate need of few more team members…but the real journey started from 1st oct when Diparshri & Avantika our saviors, gods and everything I would say….came in and took over and have brought us from there to here where we stand today. The whole DU now knows that Kamala Nehru has a choreo team and a very healthy, strong choreo team…the practices, 104◦F fevers. From practicing baby deadfalls (so dat if no1 is available then wat would we do) to each and everything, changing kirwani and requem again & again and then expressions workshop (one in which we all were suppose to shout as loud as possible) from N number of clean-ups, fights, excuses not to come to practice, ppl leaving the team 2 days before the competition, attendance issues…trying different kinds of make-ups and costume problems…Pheww…we have finally made it. 20th nov r 1st win and I still wonder how did v win I mean we tied wid hansraj and venky was 2nd hahahahaha I guess divyaP’s jacket was the lucky charm……and as it happens in typical hindi movies our victory streak started (and now I also agree with these hindi movies)hansraj-III, Srcc – 1st , JMC- 2nd and that’s not all our very 1st win for which we were recognized a little later and still jus won certificates IIPM…
But every story has a ugly part to it everything can’t be beautiful…one thing I believe was, that we were a very strong team but we only lacked team spirit for some it was becoming a burden and I agree things were not so good backstage in our lives but one should have the courage to fight or completely withdraw not make others suffer coz of it….we didn’t have feeling for each other, the bond was not created, it was becoming heavy. As every coin has two sides we also saw one of the darkest days of adagio and I m not gonna talk abt it coz I still remember sitting all alone at metro station crying all alone coz I had forgot to make the cd, no Nikhil no richa and many others, and we didn’t even noe wat was going to happen the worst( and I’ve said a lot abt it)but we also had the perfect ending we finally won the 1st prize without sharing it with anyone and also got the cash prize then and there hehehehe….
And now we have to start it all again without suheena, deepali, sahej & divya…but the best part Avantika & diparshri would be with us. (I hope so) and I know this time it will reach new heights
I promise…..
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Will we ever get satisfied????
i mean not sexually but...
We all curse god for not making life simple for not giving us what we want but we never think dat what will v do when we’ll achieve everything we wanted. Now that’s life all about dreams, desires. My economics teacher always told us that there are a difference b/w desires and wants. Wants is ur necessities and desires is something which u certainly can’t have but u want it. I say I want my desires and wants to be same and never get over k I don’t noe on what topic do I wana talk but k let’s talk about human satisfaction which we never get satisfied I mean when its exams we wait for them to get over and we plan a hundred things (in my case exercising finally) but then those after exam holidays bore me, when I had hectic rehearsals , assignments and I won’t deny dirty politics in my society for 2 months conyinously,I wanted to run away take a break from it but now it’s all over and I feel empty, I want it back. K I’ll be true I wanted to be the president of the society I m in and I worked really hard for it and trust me there was tough completion and today I m there I m the president but still I want more of it I want it to start again , I want to take it to new heights. I mean my wants and desires never finish. I’ve achieved it but still I want more………………………………….
My shopping lists never gets over something or other is added in it whether I have the money for it or not I jus wana shop something or other I can never sit back…. And I guess it happens with all of us we always want something or other everyday and we can never sit idol, having nothing in life coz then it won’t be called life it would be empty….aaj yeh hai to kal woh but we want something to desire…we can never be satisfied or be happy with ourselves at any moment in life I mean I m sure even Shah rukh khan might be wanting something or other from his life every day. We think dat some ppl have perfect lives what else would they want but I m damm sure that there would be something missing from their life and they would want it some desire. So think every morning what I want today coz every morning is a beginning of a new day…….
We all curse god for not making life simple for not giving us what we want but we never think dat what will v do when we’ll achieve everything we wanted. Now that’s life all about dreams, desires. My economics teacher always told us that there are a difference b/w desires and wants. Wants is ur necessities and desires is something which u certainly can’t have but u want it. I say I want my desires and wants to be same and never get over k I don’t noe on what topic do I wana talk but k let’s talk about human satisfaction which we never get satisfied I mean when its exams we wait for them to get over and we plan a hundred things (in my case exercising finally) but then those after exam holidays bore me, when I had hectic rehearsals , assignments and I won’t deny dirty politics in my society for 2 months conyinously,I wanted to run away take a break from it but now it’s all over and I feel empty, I want it back. K I’ll be true I wanted to be the president of the society I m in and I worked really hard for it and trust me there was tough completion and today I m there I m the president but still I want more of it I want it to start again , I want to take it to new heights. I mean my wants and desires never finish. I’ve achieved it but still I want more………………………………….
My shopping lists never gets over something or other is added in it whether I have the money for it or not I jus wana shop something or other I can never sit back…. And I guess it happens with all of us we always want something or other everyday and we can never sit idol, having nothing in life coz then it won’t be called life it would be empty….aaj yeh hai to kal woh but we want something to desire…we can never be satisfied or be happy with ourselves at any moment in life I mean I m sure even Shah rukh khan might be wanting something or other from his life every day. We think dat some ppl have perfect lives what else would they want but I m damm sure that there would be something missing from their life and they would want it some desire. So think every morning what I want today coz every morning is a beginning of a new day…….
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
emotional attyachar (must read and comment)
Well today I m gonna speak on..........................soaps!!!!
k a normal soap story would be like……a perfect daughter getting married in a family where number of ppl hating her would be more that lovin her……her husband would die in the middle of the episode and then suddenly come from some stupid section of the serial after a plastic surgery and some characters would have these plastic surgeries done as if it is the most cheapest way of a makeover …….I mean who gave ekta kapoor the right to ruin my TV viewing time with her really no sense soaps…..elders in their story would jus have one string of white in their hair and look almost equal to their young characters and baa’s jus dnt die their names should be added in book of world records AGE-110 and still going on……their characters would marry minimum 3ice or may be more than that, have children with a variety of ppl who would suddenly pop up to ruin their lives and there perfect bahu and beti is creating problem to younger generations coz now every mother-in-law wants a daughter-in-law like tulsi and our parents want us to walk talk and specially cook like saloni (have they ever tasted her food).…….
I mean I would prefer watching a reality show instead of these made no sense stories wid women in strapless blouses and daughters all the time in suits…….every1 is a copy cat in this industry they jus c wats working for 1 channel and then they copy or jus twist it and present it and we like fools would be excited to watch them everyday………I mean who cares who rakhi sawant wants to marry or how many kids parvati has secretly … this kahani ghar ghar ki is not the kahani ghar ghar ki in real…..where do these story writers get these ideas apart from those sarees and make-ups and specially to mention those huge mansions in which these characters live…..hence to sum it up pls stop this really big emotional attayachar……………………………………………..
I HATE SOAPSsoaps as in not bathing soaps but serials aaaaaaaaaa oh my god I m stuck in this circle everyday from 8:30 pm to 10pm where my sister my family is ready to go on a world war three if I dnt let them watch wat they want I mean the silly serials! Wat do these dumheads (I mean serial makers) wana show man a lady crying all the time where do they get this much glycerin... Acc to these serials women have the ultimate power they can do anything form ruining families to running business empires and wat not…. I mean they can sleep wid a heavy saree and make-up and jewellary then anything is possible…… which serial is talking sense today half of India’s, I would say women population is in danger coz of these soaps coz now they worry more abt wat is goin to happen to akshara’s life rather their own food sometimes in kitchen……… showing nonsense they r still the most common man earning industry (if u get that title coz I made it u noe I m an eco student).
k a normal soap story would be like……a perfect daughter getting married in a family where number of ppl hating her would be more that lovin her……her husband would die in the middle of the episode and then suddenly come from some stupid section of the serial after a plastic surgery and some characters would have these plastic surgeries done as if it is the most cheapest way of a makeover …….I mean who gave ekta kapoor the right to ruin my TV viewing time with her really no sense soaps…..elders in their story would jus have one string of white in their hair and look almost equal to their young characters and baa’s jus dnt die their names should be added in book of world records AGE-110 and still going on……their characters would marry minimum 3ice or may be more than that, have children with a variety of ppl who would suddenly pop up to ruin their lives and there perfect bahu and beti is creating problem to younger generations coz now every mother-in-law wants a daughter-in-law like tulsi and our parents want us to walk talk and specially cook like saloni (have they ever tasted her food).…….
I mean I would prefer watching a reality show instead of these made no sense stories wid women in strapless blouses and daughters all the time in suits…….every1 is a copy cat in this industry they jus c wats working for 1 channel and then they copy or jus twist it and present it and we like fools would be excited to watch them everyday………I mean who cares who rakhi sawant wants to marry or how many kids parvati has secretly … this kahani ghar ghar ki is not the kahani ghar ghar ki in real…..where do these story writers get these ideas apart from those sarees and make-ups and specially to mention those huge mansions in which these characters live…..hence to sum it up pls stop this really big emotional attayachar……………………………………………..
Monday, January 18, 2010
y always cast...
hey
i m very new with blogging and all stuff but i have a lot to say.......hmm lets c wat to start wid well a very major thing that i think is really stupid that is thinkin of cast all the time i mean i noe its a little boring topic but then i really wanna tlk abt it
yesterday i went to my friends home my dad doesn't know anything abt her but he read purkayasthas on their name plate and then had a smile on his face and said tell ur frnd dat even u r kayastha...... in real my frnd's a bengali and jus has surname having kayastha funny noe he was against me going to my frnd for group studies but then wen he saw the name plate he was all happy and satisfied....these big or rather elderly ppl all think is abt cast don't think dat i've jus read chetan bhagat's 2 states but yes i agree wid him very particularly... my elder sis is working and now my parents want to get her married and wat they r looking for is obviously kayastha....well no objection but here a liitle description of a typical kayastha guy (I was born and brought up in Delhi and its imp to tell) a little moustache,specs, little hanging belly saying i m from a khata peeta ghar and dark complexion and a wired hair cut.......now i object but how does it matter he's a kayastha the best match for our daughters well
not all kayastha r like this and nor i m against them but y not look in other cast may be a tamil garwahli or a kashmiri.......hmm the choice remains kayastha or may be a punjabi or brahmin...k well i m nit talkin abt marriage or anything being cast specific but jus this how happy v get wen v c some1 frm our cast whereas v r jus a little delighted to c or noe sum1 else frm other cast.....
an advice GROW UP ppl.........
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